How To Free Yourself From Frustration!

Tim Shurr • July 16, 2021

Use the following 4 Mottos to increase confidence, resiliency, and happiness regardless of the situations you may face.

1. Learn From Any Situation

One of my favorite things to teach is that “there is no failure, only feedback!” Have you ever been driving in a car and gotten lost? How did you handle that situation? Did you drive the car into a park and exclaim, “Well, I guess I have to live here now!” No, of course not. You simply discovered that the choice you made did not take you to your destination (feedback), so you turned around and made another choice. Perhaps (if you’re female!) you even stopped and asked for directions. Because you continued to focus on getting to where you were going, you eventually got there!

Life is a school, and problems are the lessons. If you can learn from everything, you will always succeed. The only way you can possibly fail is to quit! But quitters don’t read books like the one you’re now reading, so I know this isn’t you!

When life throws you lemons, what do you make? Lemonade. Can you make that lemonade without the lemons? Absolutely not. Therefore, when you see a lemon coming at you, I want you to think,  juice!  Ask yourself, “What can I learn from this situation?” You might be surprised by the answer.

2. Laugh It Off

Laughter is the best medicine. No truer words were ever spoken. Fear and laughter can’t exist at the same time, kind of like tension and relaxation.

Try this. Make a fist with your hand and hold it as tightly as you can. Now at the same time, fully and completely relax that same hand. Your brain says,  What?

You can’t do it, right, because you can’t be tense and relaxed at the same time. Therefore, I encourage you to find humor in more situations. The more you laugh, the less stressed you’ll be.

Rent comedies, hang around humorous people and take pictures of yourself making funny faces. If someone close to you is constantly yelling or complaining, imagine their voice being squeaky like a mouse or pretend they have a big shaggy tail.

If you’re upset about something, think about the last time you laughed out loud. Perhaps you were with friends and something unexpected happened that caused you to erupt into laughter. Maybe it was a scene out of that comedy you rented or something your kid said that he wasn’t supposed to say in public.

I remember when my three-year-old was playing with his blocks and his tower tumbled over. He jumped up and shouted, “Damn it!” It made me laugh, and it also reminded me to watch my language! What you look for, you will find. So look for the laughter.

3. Let It Go

Letting things go is an art form, and in order to do so, you need to realize that you are eternal and problems are temporary. In the bigger scheme of things, whatever just happened probably wasn’t that big of a deal.

It’s been said a gazillion times and it still holds true, “Don’t sweat the small stuff, and remember, it’s all small stuff!”

I was watching Pastor Joel Osteen preach on this subject. I’ll paraphrase his point. “Letting things go is a way of honoring God, because you’re strengthening your faith that he will take care of you. Rather than fighting to save face or feed your pride (ego), blow things off and pray that others return the favor.”

Dr. Phil says, “Do you want to be  right  or do you want to be  happy ?” If you’re smart, you will choose “happy” most of the time, especially in your marriage. Then, if something happens at home or work and you suddenly feel like eating, you may want to consider minimizing it, or letting the situation go. Here’s how.

Stop talking in your head. When you get all bent out of shape, it’s because you’re reviewing or repeating upsetting scenarios or comments in your mind.  You  are keeping them alive and thus  you , not the situation or other person, are stressing yourself out.

Stop the madness before it begins by quieting your mind. If that’s hard to do, start humming a favorite song, recite the Serenity Prayer or dance around the living room. People might think you’re nuts, and if so, refer back to Laughing It Off!

Make a picture, or movie, in your mind that represents the situation you’re currently upset about. Now imagine making this movie in black and white. Then mute the sound. Next, shrink the movie down so that it fits into a thimble.

Then stare down at this small movie, realizing that you are way larger and more powerful than any temporary situation. Then say to yourself out loud, in a calm, direct voice, “I’m just fine! This too shall pass.” Then let it go.

Immediately redirect your attention to the outcome you desire. Don’t get stuck on the thoughts and feelings that make you feel more miserable. Instead, ask yourself, “How do I want to feel right now?” and “What actions can I take that will allow me to feel empowered and proud of myself now and two hours from now?”

You might even just say, “Let it go. Getting caught up in this is a huge waste of my time. I’m better than this. Let’s just move on.”

Behaving in this way now will allow you to successfully behave in this way again in the future. You will have ample opportunities to practice this, and I strongly recommend that you do!

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4. Love & Encourage Yourself, Especially When Times Are Tough

When situations get really bad and there’s nowhere to turn, you should be able to count on both God and yourself. Being judgmental or critical of yourself isn’t constructive. It won’t help you, your children, your spouse, or the world.

It won’t help you become thinner, and it won’t help you become happier. In fact, it’ll do the opposite. If you treat yourself poorly, it’s likely because you learned to do so from those who raised you. They were either directly cruel or critical of you, or they treated themselves poorly and thus provided you with unhealthy role models. The best advice I can offer you is this: Don’t take advice on how to be happy from people who are not!

If your parents were insecure or unhappy people and they filled your head with a bunch of negative beliefs that are still guiding your life today, you’ve got to ask yourself, “Why in the world would I want to believe what they told me?”

Your parents, as well as the other “authority figures” in your life, are just people. Their opinions don’t hold one iota more merit than yours. Thus, if you inherited self-limiting beliefs about yourself, feel free to toss out that garbage at any time. You don’t have to hold on to that rubbish any longer.

As children, we don’t have much control over what happens to us, but as adults we do. There are two kinds of role models in life—the ones who teach you how to behave, and the ones who teach you how not to. Your job is to know the difference between the two. Everyone is either an Example or a Warning.

You’re already feeling bad. Why punish yourself by making it worse? If you have a headache, is your solution to whack yourself on the head with a mallet? That’s absurd! So if you are already stressed, why would you engage in thoughts that only add to that stress?

Instead of trying to avoid pain by creating more of it, do something that makes you feel loved, supported, or connected.

As one idea, you can sit down with a cup of green tea and start journaling about what’s going on in your life right now. Just start writing. You might start with, “I don’t know what to write. I guess I’m just feeling stressed right now . . .” The more you write, the better you will feel. It will also help you get to the source of the stress, rather than just medicating the symptoms with food.

By acknowledging that you’re tired, overwhelmed, or in need of a break, you get to the root of the problem. If your feelings are hurt, you can provide yourself the validation that you need. It does not have to come from another person.

If you wait around for someone else to fulfill your needs, you’ll be waiting an awfully long time. Instead, cut out the middle person and give yourself exactly what you need emotionally. No cookie has ever reached up and given you a hug. You need to do that for yourself.

Self-Affirmation: “No food could ever make me feel as good as being healthy does!”

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Athletes Reveal How Hypnosis Improves Sports Performance

By Tim Shurr • September 23, 2025
The difference between winning and losing in sports often comes down to more than physical strength or skill. At the highest levels, athletes know that the real edge lies in the mind. Confidence, focus, and the ability to stay calm under pressure are what separate champions from the rest of the field. At Indy Hypnosis, athletes are finding that hypnosis provides the mental boost they need to reach new levels of performance. Sports psychologists have long said that competition is as much a mental game as a physical one. Even the best training can fall apart when nerves take over or self-doubt creeps in. Hypnosis addresses these mental blocks directly by reprogramming the subconscious mind to respond with confidence, clarity, and determination. One young athlete came to Indy Hypnosis struggling with performance anxiety. On practice days, he excelled. But when it was time to compete, his nerves took control and his results fell short. After a series of hypnosis sessions, he broke through the mental barrier and went on to set five new personal records. “I didn’t feel nervous anymore,” he explained. “I felt like I could just do what I had trained to do.” Professional and recreational athletes alike report similar stories. Golfers find their swing more consistent. Runners feel a newfound endurance. Weightlifters hit personal bests without the voice of doubt holding them back. What all these athletes share is the realization that once the mind stops working against them, their natural ability shines. Hypnosis also helps with recovery. Injuries often leave behind not only physical scars but also mental ones. An athlete recovering from a torn ligament may hesitate, afraid of pushing too hard and risking another injury. Through hypnosis, those fears can be reframed, allowing the athlete to return with full confidence and a stronger focus on healing. Science backs up what these athletes describe. Studies show that hypnosis can improve concentration, reduce stress hormones, and increase motivation. By visualizing success under hypnosis, athletes create mental “rehearsals” that make the real event feel familiar, boosting confidence and performance on game day. For many, the biggest surprise is how natural the shift feels. They do not have to force positivity or pretend to be confident. Instead, confidence emerges as the default setting. “It wasn’t about tricking my brain,” one athlete shared. “It was about finally trusting myself.” Sports are built on fine margins, and those margins are often mental. With hypnosis, athletes are discovering that the edge they have been searching for has been inside them all along—waiting to be unlocked. If you are ready to take your performance to the next level, schedule a free consultation with Indy Hypnosis today and discover how hypnosis can help you win from the inside out.

Conquer Stress and Lower Anxiety With a Proven Hypnosis Method

By Tim Shurr • September 19, 2025
Stress has become the background noise of modern life. From deadlines at work to family responsibilities and the constant buzz of technology, it is no wonder that anxiety levels are at an all-time high. For many people, the pressure feels relentless, and traditional coping strategies like deep breathing or exercise often provide only temporary relief. At Indy Hypnosis, clients are discovering that hypnosis offers a deeper, more lasting solution. Unlike quick fixes, hypnosis works by calming the mind at its source. Stress is not just a reaction to circumstances; it is also the product of thought patterns that magnify worry and fear. The subconscious mind, which governs much of our emotional response, often gets stuck in loops of “what if” thinking. Hypnosis gently interrupts those loops, replacing them with calmer, more empowering messages. Clients frequently describe their sessions as surprisingly peaceful. One woman said it felt like “an hour-long vacation for my brain.” By the end, her racing thoughts had slowed, and she carried that calm with her long after the session was over. Another client, who had battled panic attacks for years, reported that the intensity and frequency of her episodes decreased dramatically after beginning hypnosis. Instead of feeling overwhelmed, she now feels in control. Science supports these experiences. Studies show that hypnosis can lower heart rate, ease tension, and reduce cortisol, the stress hormone that wreaks havoc on the body. This makes it more than just a mental shift; it is a full-body reset. Clients often notice they sleep better, concentrate more easily, and approach daily challenges with a clearer head. Perhaps the most striking difference is how natural it feels. Instead of forcing relaxation, hypnosis allows the mind to release its grip on anxious thoughts. As one client explained, “It wasn’t about pushing stress away. It was like my brain finally remembered how to relax.” Stress and anxiety do not have to rule life. With the One Belief Away Method, people are finding that the heavy burden of worry can be lifted, replaced with a steady confidence that carries them through each day. If you are ready to quiet the noise of stress and experience lasting calm, schedule your free consultation with Indy Hypnosis today. Relief is closer than you think.

Stop Smoking for Good With Hypnosis That Works

By Tim Shurr • September 19, 2025
For decades, quitting smoking has been one of the hardest challenges people face. Nicotine patches, chewing gum, prescription medications, and countless “quit plans” have promised results, yet relapse rates remain high. Many smokers desperately want to stop, but the grip of addiction seems stronger than sheer willpower. At Indy Hypnosis, however, clients are finding a path to freedom that feels both possible and permanent. The secret lies in addressing the mind, not just the habit. Smoking is not only a physical addiction but also a deeply ingrained behavioral pattern. For many, lighting up is tied to stress relief, social rituals, or even simple routines like a morning coffee. Trying to stop without addressing these subconscious connections often leads to frustration and relapse. Through hypnosis, those patterns begin to shift. The subconscious mind, which controls much of our automatic behavior, can be reprogrammed to disconnect cigarettes from their old triggers. Instead of fighting the urge every time stress arises, clients find the desire to smoke naturally fading. One client who smoked for thirty years described the experience as “like flipping a switch.” After her session, she no longer craved cigarettes, and the thought of smoking felt out of place rather than tempting. Another powerful story came from Yovanna, who struggled with smoking for three decades. She had tried everything else and felt convinced she would never break free. After working with Indy Hypnosis, she walked away from cigarettes with a sense of calm rather than struggle. What surprised her most was how natural it felt. “I wasn’t forcing myself to quit,” she explained. “I just didn’t want to smoke anymore.” Beyond individual accounts, science has also shown hypnosis to be effective in smoking cessation. By directly addressing the subconscious, it bypasses the endless battle of willpower and offers a smoother path forward. Hospitals and clinics around the world now include hypnosis as part of smoking cessation programs, validating what clients at Indy Hypnosis have been experiencing for years. What makes this method stand out is not just the success of quitting but the permanence of the change. Instead of feeling deprived, clients feel free. Instead of counting days since their last cigarette, they begin building new routines filled with energy, confidence, and health. Breaking free from smoking is not about giving something up. It is about reclaiming life. Clients report breathing easier, feeling more energetic, and rediscovering a sense of control they thought they had lost forever. If you are ready to stop smoking for good and experience true freedom, schedule your free consultation with Indy Hypnosis today. The next chapter of your life can begin smoke-free.